After researching this subject "What Makes Men Fall In Love" I have come to the conclusion that men are just as complicated as women.  And that most of the things that we do to attract someone of the opposite sex is just natural.  If I had to sit down and plan how I was going to act to attract a man then I would probably give up.  I mean, if it's something that you need to "act" to do, then eventually the act will disappear and he will be left with the natural you.  Fortunately for us "what makes men fall in love" will come natural, especially when you run across a man that triggers your pheromones ( in Greek

known as the "excitement carrier") and hopefully you will trigger his.

But there are some interesting data I found on this topic on "What Makes Men Fall In Love?"that I know you will find interesting. So keep on reading, I think you will be surprised to realize that a lot of these things are things that you do naturally.

First of all I discovered that men get butterflies in their stomach too!  I would have never guessed!  And that they really do desire to find someone to fall in love with. That it's not just all about sex.  They have that nesting urge in them as much as women do, to just find that one mate to make a home with and to have children with. 

So what attributes do women have that makes a man fall in love? From what I have discovered, men have four basic needs, and if he finds these qualities in you then his desire to be with you increase. I have included them below.

The Need To Protect. 

Yes, men are wired to nurture.  Nurturing and sheltering you from harm makes him feel like a Man. So, letting him see your vulnerable side will bring him closer to you, it will bring out that instinct to take care of you.  So let him take charge on occasion, and be sure to thank him when he does. Here is a list of things that will bring out his superman, and make him feel good.

1.  Give him a job to do or ask him for help with something, create opportunities for him to feel needed.  And whatever you do don't control the situation, just sit back and let him be the superman.

2.  Ask his opinion on so meting and listen. It makes him feel like you value his opinion and his brain.

3.  Dress feminine.  OK, you don't have to do this all the time, but on occasional it won't hurt.  If you like to wear jeans then make sure your underclothing is sexy.  Men love soft sexy clothes, they accentuate your feminine nature which ignites his amorous nature. But also on occasion wear his clothes, his shirt at night over you naked body is  a real turn-on.  His jacket when you get cold.  These make him feel like you have chosen him over other guys.

      “I love you, not only for what you are, But for what I am when I am with you.” – Roy Croft

The Need For Freedom

Men need to know that their male identity will still be there when they become attached to a woman. So, it's important that you let him know that you don't expect him to change, that you are not out to fix him. He needs to feel that you understand him and that his identity is safe.  Here is a list of other things you can show him to make him feel safe.

1. Turn him down on occasion. It will make him feel more at ease knowing that your life isn't tied around him, that you have your own identity.  It will also make him curious, and therefore pursue you more.

2.  Share your own fears about commitment, it will make him feel more at ease and that your not out to get him. It will also open up some communication about how you both feel.

3.  Change your appearance when you feel like it.  Don't ask for his permission or approval.  If you want to color your hair or wear a different shade of lipstick, then go for it.  This lets him know that there is more then one side to you, which can be exciting.

4.  Respect his space.  Don't bug him about where he has been or what he does all day.  Don't just show up at his door, rummage through his drawers or always checking his cell phone.  Allow him his own space.  His space is a symbol of independence, so respect it.

5.  Appreciate him.  Make sure to let him know that you notice the small things he does.

The Need To Shine

Yes, men can be just as insecure as women, even if they don't act it.  And they need to know you respect and appreciate them, but they if you can make them feel better about who they are, well that's just a big plus, especially around others. So here are some tips to help you do that.

1.  Make him laugh. Tease him about the little stupid things he does, or during the little ha ha moments, like when he falls out of bed during sex. Just try to keep things light and he will treasure you.

2.  Be social and drag him along.  Most men don't have a lot of social graces, so take the lead and be the social butterfly.  He will appreciate you for it, in fact, he might take credit for it.

3.  Be intellectual with him, take politics, play scrabble, chess.  Men love the mental stimulation, and from his lady is twice as good.

4.  Act like the grand prize when you are out with him, it will make him feel very manly.

                                      “Love is that condition in which the happiness
                         of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert Heinlein

The Need To Feel Comfort

Did you know there is a chemical (oxytocin) that floods the brain that helps develop attachment, or falling in love?  And you know what else, you can help to release these chemicals by making him feel like the two of you fit together, that you are comfortable together.  So here are some tips that will make him feel comfortable.

1.  Let him see you bath, shower, or groom yourself.  This will enhance intimacy, something that nobody else has privy to, just him.  Make sure you don't do any of the gross stuff, like bleaching your mustache.

2.  Cook together.  We all know that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, but food also spikes the oxytocin levels in him, these chemicals creates good feelings, which he will associate with you.

3.  When grocery shopping, buy a few things that he likes, this will make him feel more at home when he comes over.

4.  Take little cat naps next to him, or doze off in his arms, he will see you at your most vulnerable and trusting, and make him feel more protective of you.

So, that is what my research has taught me on "What Makes Men Fall in Love?" Basically it all comes down to chemicals and you being a woman and him being a man.  But it doesn't hurt to know what makes us tick.  Lord knows I could use all the help I can get on trying to figure out what makes men fall in love. 

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